Often in relationships, we set expectations on how we want our spouse to be and that is not a healthy relationship. We must love our spouse without expectations otherwise it will lead to disappointments and heartaches.
A Husband and wife need unconditional love from each other. What does this look like?
Your spouse should know that you love them for who they are and not for what they can do. For example, Greg is smart and is great with numbers but that isn’t why Cheryl loves him. “I love him because he is Greg throughout his weakness and imperfections,” said Cheryl.
Often times we try to create an ideal picture in our mind of how a perfect partner should be but don’t you want a spouse that is real to who they truly are?
After all, most of your expectations are based on the outside world that does not really matter in your relationship. How sad would it be if your spouse, the love of your life is someone that you feel uncomfortable to express yourself to? It is a disaster and it will just not work! Most of the time this bad habit can lead to comparison, unrealistic expectations and unfair judgments.
It is not fair to expect our spouse to change according to our standards. Thinking that it should be that way just because it is convenient for us. We sometimes forget that as humans we have a different clock to progress, grow and become the best versions of ourselves depending on our knowledge, abilities, and talents, amongst others.
Starting from now you will try your best effort to learn to accept your partner as human beings who make mistakes and unique as they really are.
As the old saying goes, nobody is perfect. Even the smartest person in the world is far from perfect so it is foolish to give up on your partner just because of their shortcomings.
You should love your partner and take the time to understand them. They will naturally open their hearts with concern about what is on your mind and what you feel. If you give the right amount of respect to your partner and listen to their opinions and beliefs you will feel more close to them as ever and you will create a good foundation in your relationship.