Relationships are one of the most important things in life. Spoiler alert: there is no one-size-fits-all to a successful relationship, however, there are some things that can help you develop and maintain the bond with your significant other. In this article, we delve into the 4 essential pieces to building a successful relationship.
Accept your significant other for who they are
One of the most essential pieces to developing a successful relationship is accepting your significant other for who they are. This means recognizing their strengths and seeing past their flaws. Everyone has some sort of flaw, whether it be an annoying habit or a more serious issue that can cause conflict in relationships. If you are able to accept your significant other for who they are, then this can help build a strong foundation that will allow the relationship to grow. Ask yourself: am I truly accepting my partner for who they are? How can I be more accepting?
Appreciate your partner and what they do for you
One of the best ways to show that you appreciate your partner is by showing them gratitude when they do something for you. Everyone wants to feel appreciated and loved, even if it’s just a simple “thank you” note in the morning before work! If you’re not sure how often or what exactly your significant other appreciates about you, ask them! This shows a deeper level of respect and love for your significant other. Ask yourself: do I truly appreciate what my partner does for me? How can I show more appreciation towards my partner?
Show affection towards one another
Showing affection towards your significant other can be done in many different ways. You can even go beyond physical expressions. Many people are very touchy-feely when it comes to their significant other and others may prefer something different and that’s okay too! This shows the different preferences of each individual in a relationship. The point is to find out what your partner enjoys and show affection towards them in that way! Ask yourself: how can I be more affectionate in a way that my partner likes to receive? What does my significant other like?
Create agreements on how to be together
Creating agreements with your significant other is important because it shows that you both are willing to work together. This way, if there ever comes a time where one partner breaks the agreement or violates it in some sort of way, then they can be called out on it and changes can be made. Create an agreement about something like how much affection should be shown, what does quality time looks like, and any other aspect of your relationship. Ask yourself: what are some things that I would like to see in my relationship? What does quality time look like for me and my partner? How can we create agreements on how to be together?
By accepting your significant other, showing gratitude towards them, expressing affection towards one another, and creating agreements about being together you will build a strong foundation to grow your relationship. Relationship experts Greg and Cheryl Clarke give the blueprint to a lasting and loving relationship in their highly acclaimed book “The Power of the Four A’s” and their powerful accompanying workbook. Get your copy today!